I am making this thread, as my ideas of friends and friendship have gone completely out the fucking window, so here is the debate.

What makes a good friend and why.

What's the debate?

A good friend is A,B,C. Everyone agrees. What now?

Anyway, a good friend is someone one actually stands by you in times of trouble. A good friend is someone who you actually like talking to and they to you, and they don't ditch you if the opportunity arrives. A good friend is someone who you can talk openly with.

Maybe this would be better in the Main forum. But what do think makes a good friend. As I mean ever one has a different opinion on what a friend is.

Hard to define, though. A friend is someone that's close to you and for me, it's also someone who shares interests with you. Many people say that and many people say the opposite, that it'd be boring if friends did the same shit and had the same opinions, well I disagree. I found that for me the best friends share my interests and my biggest opinions.
And then...what also classifies a friend needs to be told by everyone individually. Some want intellectual friends, others want friends to gossip. It's all down to the individual.

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I am making this thread, as my ideas of friends and friendship have gone completely out the fucking window, so here is the debate.

Bugger, what happened? Get screwed over by someone you knew?

I guess I'd define a friend as someone you could confide in, trust, but also be someone who you could have fun with. They don't have to like the same things, act the same, or even have the same ideals as yourself (even though some of those will help).

There has to be some kind of connection that sticks the people together, though, or you will probably end up getting dropped when someone else comes along or if hard times hit.

I think it is generally accepted what a good friend is: someone you can trust, you enjoy hanging out with, who stands up for you etc.

Yeah I had the idea of friendship that all you guys had, but was stabbed in the back by someone who I thought was a friends I had, had all though school. Not very fun, as now he has been a catalyst for every one else I thought was a friend turning their backs on me. Woo hoo for High school.

A friend is someone you know is an idiot, that knows you are an idiot as well, but you both love each other for it anyways.

And that's only half joking. I think it's a sign of friendship when you are comfortable enough with somebody to act like as much of an idiot as you want to without them actually losing respect for you.

I think that what makes a friend is personal, and can't be replicated through a formula.

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A friend is someone you know is an idiot, that knows you are an idiot as well, but you both love each other for it anyways.

And that's only half joking. I think it's a sign of friendship when you are comfortable enough with somebody to act like as much of an idiot as you want to without them actually losing respect for you.

Quoted for truth.

i think friend is a catch-all term for serious, non-romantic relationships. i don't have that much experience but i kind of like to think of relationships and sort of nebulous and indefinable.

two people can be having a relationship that one person says is friendship, another says is acquaintanceship, whatever. i think "friend" is useful as a label but not really a distinct method of relating to others.

i don't know what i'm talking about, i sound like tyler making idealistic assertions about the bigger picture.

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Yeah I had the idea of friendship that all you guys had, but was stabbed in the back by someone who I thought was a friends I had, had all though school. Not very fun, as now he has been a catalyst for every one else I thought was a friend turning their backs on me. Woo hoo for High school.

first of all, if there was something that happened that caused this falling out, i'd say you should examine what happened and try to see it from his point of view.

more often than not, people are just dicks for no reason. my advice is not to worry so much about it. life is only going to get harder, so enjoy high school while you can. you'll figure out who your real friends are eventually.

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Yeah I had the idea of friendship that all you guys had, but was stabbed in the back by someone who I thought was a friends I had, had all though school. Not very fun, as now he has been a catalyst for every one else I thought was a friend turning their backs on me. Woo hoo for High school.

Lawl, that happened to me like three years ago.

Move on, and in a few weeks/months/at least by the end of the year it'll be all awesome and getting awesomer from there.

Or at least, that's what happened for me.

I'm so great.

Someone you trust.