Now, I'm putting this all in spoilers because as a general rule, the internet doesn't give a single flying hashtag about my personal life. but if you do, could you please look and help me?

Also, if I'm breaking any rules please let me know.

Backstory:


that was the start of this school year.





thanks guys for your time.... Or not. :(

If I may put in my opinion, it sounds as if you are being played man. I know you don't want to tie her down and restrict her which is perfectly fine but if you truly loved each other, you would just wait, this deal doesn't sound good. You should rethink the situation.

Let me first state that I am in no way a caring human being. I pretty much hate people. Still, I'll help anyone in need.

Now, here's how I see it: she wants sex, but she cares about you. Therefore, your problem is that you care for her too much. If you actually love her that much, stop feeling like you're chaining her down and man up. She clearly doesn't care that you're younger than her. You're the one with that problem. Try talking to her and actually explaining how you feel. Stop with the open relationship bs and actually be a couple. Otherwie, you're just a dude and chick who like each ohr, but prefer others. That is not a real relatonship, that is self delusion, and you should both feel like idiots for thinking it was a good idea. If you don't, maybe your emotions aren't sincere.

And those are my thoughts on your love life.

In all brutal honesty, it sounds like shes trying to end it with you. That break, or open relationship more sounds like it her wanting to go off and try new things, with new people, while still having a safety net (you) to fall back on if everything goes terribly wrong. If she was serious about a relationship with you, she would be experimenting and all that jazz with you and not a friend. There is a difference between expecting your girlfriend to act like a girlfriend, and chaining her down by being an untrusting, jealous, jerk.

If you want my advice, you can put your foot down, tell her that you want to end this open relationship thing, see how she reacts and go from there. Or tell her you're okay with what shes doing and move on and find a relationship full of love and respect. Or you can stay as you are, and keep getting hurt.
Either way, gl

This almost exactly happened to a friend of mine, it ended up with my friends gf having a realationship with another guy. He was hurt. I think if he told his gf he didn't want her to have this kind of thing with a guy it would've turned out better. It's almost valentines day, man. Tell her

hey guys, thanks for all the advice.

We just talked about it in depth and she said she didn't want to do anything like this if it would end up hurting me...

so we're good. :)

I'm glad you guys are here to help, as I am going to be in constant need of it. XP

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hey guys, thanks for all the advice.

We just talked about it in depth and she said she didn't want to do anything like this if it would end up hurting me...

so we're good. :)

I'm glad you guys are here to help, as I am going to be in constant need of it. XP

Oh god, at least your not one of those middles schooler's that's like "ya me and my girl are havin isueees" and Im like "no, you're like 10, STFU!!!"

Its normal to have speed bumps in relationships, but sometimes you have to move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea bro.

im sorta of having the same issue but my thing is that it involves 2 boys and my boyfriend but i dont want anyone to get hurt..... can anyone help me?

Instead of trying to mollify your own expectations as the end-result of some imaginary "internal censor", why don't you ask yourself if you're willing to go through with an open relationship? It's not unreasonable or unfair to expect your partner to remain loyal to you, just as it isn't unreasonable to want to casually date other people during a long-term relationship, so stop trying to describe your viewpoints as if they're beyond your control.

The fact is, you're in a lose-lose situation, so pick whatever is best for you. Don't try to stay with this girl if you're really this uncomfortable with the idea of an open relationship.


I mean, you said:

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So we set up an agreement. We could both date as we felt like, but keep each other in mind during the such.

But now that you're actually faced with the reality of her fucking some other guy, you're uncomfortable with it. Which means you're simply choosing to be uncomfortable over breaking up with her, since you prefer the former over the latter. If that's the case, then suck it up, but if it bothers you this much then end it before you wind up resenting her for doing something you've already agreed was acceptable.

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im sorta of having the same issue but my thing is that it involves 2 boys and my boyfriend but i dont want anyone to get hurt..... can anyone help me?

Sure, why not? PM me the details. Also, you might want to make your own post rather than using someone else's.