So lately I have been thinking about all of the personal flaws humanity has in general. Of course humanity isn't perfect and will always have problems. But I have read up on a concept known as a self fulfilled prophecy and it has greatly interested me. Perhaps we can use this concept for a good purpose?

Here is a link if you want to read up on the concept of a self fulfilled prophecy.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-fulfilling_prophecy



This thread is where you will post any personal flaw that you have that you want to change about yourself.
I encourage trying to give constructive advice on ways to help solve any flaw others may have, but don't accuse anyone of anything.


Note that you are not allowed to point out others flaws in a disrespectful way.
If you feel it would contribute to the discussion than do so respectfully.

I will start. I have a major problem with pride. I constantly think that everyone around me is a moron and that if everyone was like me, life would be better. At the same time I have a bit of an inferiority complex (if you can call it that). I always think that im in someone's way, I hesitate when it comes to a lot of things, and I have problems when I date due to the fact that im prideful which leads to a mini depression and a vicious cycle of emotional shit. I am trying to fix the pride problem by trying to be more humble and at least attempting to accept people and not classify them as idiots before I even meet them.

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I will start. I have a major problem with pride. I constantly think that everyone around me is a moron and that if everyone was like me, life would be better. At the same time I have a bit of an inferiority complex (if you can call it that). I always think that im in someone's way, I hesitate when it comes to a lot of things, and I have problems when I date due to the fact that im prideful which leads to a mini depression and a vicious cycle of emotional shit. I am trying to fix the pride problem by trying to be more humble and at least attempting to accept people and not classify them as idiots before I even meet them.

Remember, most of people are morons. And it's because they also think everyone are morons LOL
Obviously, the world would be better if everyone were like you... it would be better for you, that's it. If everyone could think the same way, life would be a lot easier...

I have problems with pride, but on a different way... for example, when i get mad with someone and later regret it, i won't talk to that person, even if it makes me feel bad. Because i think "I shouldn't bow to anyone, i'm right and he/she's wrong. so he/she should apologize first". And that's what f***ed up my previous relationships ._.

also i think everything i do is sh*t. it doesn't matter who says it's good. If i do something, i'll think is sh*t. Maybe that's good, because it makes me improve... if i think my art is awesome for example, my art would stuck.

I have a very bad tendency to refuse to try hard for something if I find it extremely hard or almost impossible to achieve due to being scarred by past failures and fear of rejection/ being looked down upon... This personality disability of mine often causes me to be a loner because I often refuse to reach out and talk to people or bother to try and find things to satisfy me... I just simply wait it out and hope, mentally that's all it seems I can do... I often hold lots of my feelings and thoughts inside myself and almost never express any true negative emotion or rebellion causing me on the outside to seem very submissive but I all do is store anger deeply within myself making my view of everything I see more negative then it possibly should be... The rare times I do actually release my true feelings or wrath I often cause a huge mess or an enormous issue...

I find it very bothersome to try and let my inner feelings go so I tend to try and defy any sign of emotional weakness and reject those who are awkward or of complete difference to me in hopes of avoiding the feeling often being rejected...

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I have low self-esteem and it's making me jealous of everyone and everything. I've done great things before, but they always take more time than necessary---like I realize that if I had just did it right away, it would turn out fine without having to waste all that effort worrying whether it will work or not. So yeah. I wish I was more confident in anything I do.

I used to have major self esteem issues because I was bullied and rejected in middle school. I got over it by being prideful and arrogant in highschool (still am) but I still have hints of low self esteem, like when I hesitate to make a decision on the spot because of my fear of failure and rejection from my peers and it ends up hurting me in the end.

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I have a very bad tendency to refuse to try hard for something if I find it extremely hard or almost impossible to achieve due to being scarred by past failures and fear of rejection/ being looked down upon... This personality disability of mine often causes me to be a loner because I often refuse to reach out and talk to people or bother to try and find things to satisfy me... I just simply wait it out and hope, mentally that's all it seems I can do... I often hold lots of my feelings and thoughts inside myself and almost never express any true negative emotion or rebellion causing me on the outside to seem very submissive but I all do is store anger deeply within myself making my view of everything I see more negative then it possibly should be... The rare times I do actually release my true feelings or wrath I often cause a huge mess or an enormous issue...

I find it very bothersome to try and let my inner feelings go so I tend to try and defy any sign of emotional weakness and reject those who are awkward or of complete difference to me in hopes of avoiding the feeling often being rejected...

This last bit just about describes me as well. You have a personality similar to mine. Putting it simply, you're saying you internalize and eventually the negative feelings build up and kind of explode out of you?

I have HUGE problems with being assertive. Like.... Big ones, I stop doing things I like because I can't say no (at least not so simply).

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I stop doing things I like because I can't say no (at least not so simply).

I uh..... Don't really get that. >_____>

I have a problem with being loyal to certain things. Mainly education. [ Like right now, I have a shit ton of school work that needed to be done, but apparently I wasted my whole entire 5-day weekend doing nothing. lol ] I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but this is my biggest problem with my life : Procrastination.

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I uh..... Don't really get that. >_____>

I have a problem with being loyal to certain things. Mainly education. [ Like right now, I have a shit ton of school work that needed to be done, but apparently I wasted my whole entire 5-day weekend doing nothing. lol ] I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but this is my biggest problem with my life : Procrastination.

I am also a huge procrastinator! And my teachers decided to conspire against me last week and put 4 difficult tests on the same day, only 2 of which I studied for. I only passed 1 with an A and the rest got C and lower.... :/

I am incredibly pessimistic, I don't really believe in anything good coming of anything that happens (especially things involving me). Oh, and I'm severely depressed too so yeah. It's pretty bad. So bad that I've driven people down into some pretty dark places simply by speaking to them about certain things in life. I'm pretty sure I know WHY I am the way I am, but I'm not entirely sure how to change it.

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I am incredibly pessimistic, I don't really believe in anything good coming of anything that happens (especially things involving me). Oh, and I'm severely depressed too so yeah. It's pretty bad. So bad that I've driven people down into some pretty dark places simply by speaking to them about certain things in life. I'm pretty sure I know WHY I am the way I am, but I'm not entirely sure how to change it.

I think we have all felt that way at one point in our lives. You'll figure it out and eventually shensurei, if you're lucky, you may find your own happiness in your own way. Its all a matter of time and endurance. Eventually it will get better. You need to have HOPE that it will get better. This is what I mean by a self fulfilled prophecy. Im not saying this will necessarily work, but its worth a shot. Try convincing yourself that you are an optimist, and against your pessimistic nature intentionally look at the good in life for awhile. If you cant find anything off the top of your head, look for it. Go on walks in quiet places and just think of things that you enjoy, dwell on those things. Meditate and relax yourself and try and forget all the pain and problems that you have. Ask scarecrow about meditation if needed because he knows a lot about the topic but it could help. That's just my suggestion because if you act like an optimist for awhile it could rub off on you if you let it or want it to. I hope you figure it out :)

my flaws:

- my body is in poor phsyical condition
- i have been incapable of allowing myself to feel real love for anyone for a long time

both of these are holding me back in my own meditations (must have healthy mind, healthy body, healthy heart) and are repair works in progress


also hello i am here to help with your meditation queries

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my flaws:

- my body is in poor phsyical condition
- i have been incapable of allowing myself to feel real love for anyone for a long time

both of these are holding me back in my own meditations (must have healthy mind, healthy body, healthy heart) and are repair works in progress


also hello i am here to help with your meditation queries

Uh oh...

Interesting thread.

I feel I have both superiority and inferiority complex. I look down upon who is not as good as me and feel myself as very small when being near great people.
Mind explaining, anyone?

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I uh..... Don't really get that. >_____>

I have a problem with being loyal to certain things. Mainly education. [ Like right now, I have a shit ton of school work that needed to be done, but apparently I wasted my whole entire 5-day weekend doing nothing. lol ] I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but this is my biggest problem with my life : Procrastination.

Quote from Cruel

I am also a huge procrastinator! And my teachers decided to conspire against me last week and put 4 difficult tests on the same day, only 2 of which I studied for. I only passed 1 with an A and the rest got C and lower.... :/

Procrastination! (Click to Show)

A wise man once said "Procrastination is like masturbation: It's fun while it lasts, but when it's over, you realize you just screwed yourself."

He used not-so-proper language, but I chose to modify it a little to be PG rated. Thing about procrastination is that it's an easy trap that everyone falls into. Well, unless you're perfect and have no flaws, like me. But for normal people, procrastination is an easy trap to fall into. The thing you have to keep in mind is "Why am I procrastinating?" What are you doing with your time that's so special that you have to put off doing whatever you should be doing? If the answer is nothing, then you're going to have to end up doing it anyway, and it's just going to be a much worse experience for you when you finally get around to it, if you put it off. Doing it now and getting it over with is a lot better than doing nothing now, doing what you're supposed to do later, and suffering the consequences of procrastination, not to mention the depression that goes along with procrastinating, knowing that you're "screwing" yourself.

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Uh oh...

Interesting thread.

I feel I have both superiority and inferiority complex. I look down upon who is not as good as me and feel myself as very small when being near great people.
Mind explaining, anyone?

This has a very simple explanation, actually. Every superiority complex hides an inferiority complex, though the same is not necessarily always true in reverse. And this isn't just me providing personal experience here, this is coming from professional psychologists. Basically, people with inferiority complexes often feel compelled to put on a show to convince others (and far more often themselves) that they are superior to others, or that they wish to be superior to others.

I consider myself to be a very shy person, especially among people who I don't really know or I have very little similarities with. Hence, I tend to keep quiet and minimize the number of interactions with those people, I create a kind of awkward vibe. The sad thing is, I act the same way with my relatives. When I do try to talk to them, I find myself running out of things to talk about quite quickly, and it is hard to engage in "deep" conversation.

Second flaw I realize is that I tend to talk to myself, which involves quite an excess of profanity (It is probably to vent). This is like the polar opposite of my described "shy" self.

I have no such thing as the word no, well at least with people I'm close to.
I too, always see myself as the best in terms of mentality, and that everyone should be like me.
I'm either too sensitive/aggressive, or too cold.
Confidence is low when meeting strangers.

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A wise man once said "Procrastination is like masturbation: It's fun while it lasts, but when it's over, you realize you just screwed yourself."

He used not-so-proper language, but I chose to modify it a little to be PG rated. Thing about procrastination is that it's an easy trap that everyone falls into. Well, unless you're perfect and have no flaws, like me. But for normal people, procrastination is an easy trap to fall into. The thing you have to keep in mind is "Why am I procrastinating?" What are you doing with your time that's so special that you have to put off doing whatever you should be doing? If the answer is nothing, then you're going to have to end up doing it anyway, and it's just going to be a much worse experience for you when you finally get around to it, if you put it off. Doing it now and getting it over with is a lot better than doing nothing now, doing what you're supposed to do later, and suffering the consequences of procrastination, not to mention the depression that goes along with procrastinating, knowing that you're "screwing" yourself.

This has a very simple explanation, actually. Every superiority complex hides an inferiority complex, though the same is not necessarily always true in reverse. And this isn't just me providing personal experience here, this is coming from professional psychologists. Basically, people with inferiority complexes often feel compelled to put on a show to convince others (and far more often themselves) that they are superior to others, or that they wish to be superior to others.

Use that inferiority complex to motivate yourself into self-improvement. Turn that superiority complex into superiority.