Camila's thread about that dick head made me want to see what you guys do. Basically her thread is about how some dude has been manipulating her.
So it made me wonder, manipulation for some people comes very easily and naturally, for others it doesn't. For individuals like myself it's almost subconsciously done. So, do you guys manipulate? If do you do, what methods do you use? What do you use it to get? I'll admit I'm an asshole and I use it to get girlfriends, and that's about it.
Manipulation
Started by: TheCreator | Replies: 3 | Views: 419 | Closed
Aug 23, 2013 1:45 AM #1072273
Aug 23, 2013 2:08 AM #1072293
Its not really about manipulation, its about an obsessive personality. And my post in that kind of proves that I can manipulate.
I dated this girl that was obsessed with me, and i mean, i liked her. She was a writer and very intelligent, but she had her own problems with suicidal tendencies. And day five of us dating she started fantasizing over how we would get an appartment together and have sex all the time. That freaked me out a bit, but what really scared me is when this happened:
I decided to go to the library to read up on a psychology book i was interested in, and while i was there i texted her. It went something like this.
Her: Whatchya doin
Me: Reading at the library
Her: Which one?
Me: (says location)
Her: Haha, i should walk over and see you
Me: Haha, itd be cool if you could (playingly) (she lives ten miles away)
Her: Ill be there in 2 hours or so
Me: Wait, what? You're serious?
Her: See you soon my love
Me: Uh...ok?
She walked ten miles in the storming weather to see me. It was day six of our relationship. Then afterwords she started making (very well written though....) Sex scene writings of us in our appartment. At that point i knew she was extremely obsessive and that i would have to end it soon. But I had a few problems.
1) The day after I had sex with her (yeah...im a dick like that) she wouldnt shut up about how I was the only reason she didnt kill herself. That her life in america with a cell phone and internet and a roof over her head was so terrible and that nobody loved her but me. I got fed up with it real fast, but I really didnt want to have someones suicide on my hands, and this time more directly than the last (Ill elaborate on that some other time.).
2) Our mutual friend was harasing me on how we need to get married. This mutual friend has an obsesion with setting people up and intervening with relationships, and i knew that if i did break up with this girl, the mutual friend would flip a shit and tell EVERYONE. Shes a gossiping bitch like that.
How did i fix this problem? I called the girl I was dating, gave her a suicide hotline, and broke up with her. Then, I called the mutual friend and straight up said "Yes, Im an asshole and banged your friend in the first week we dated. Be nice to her and make sure she's ok and that she knows you care. I see anything on facebook about this, I will sue you for harasment." (obviously not true, but shes an idiot). Then finally, i stopped socializing with that group entirely and cut all ties.
Worked like a charm.
Aug 23, 2013 2:20 AM #1072307
A form of manipulation is seduction, well I suppose everybody uses that form. Lying...feigning stuff.. all pretty common manipulations.
I mostly use the "You won't have to do that, if you allow me to do this to you/for you". But also the "I won't do that, if you do this for me" works pretty well.
With girls I mostly try to get them talking about themselves and just listen, and then act when I spot a vulnerability. When I know a girl is very naive I just start bragging. When I know a girl is easily impressionable I do some stupid card trick or do a drinking contest (I can drink beer real fast).
But mostly I use the seduction, I'm a true romantic myself and I tend to say cheesy things like --- Me: 'what's your name?' ---- girl: 'Stacy' ---- me: 'Nice name'.
It's pretty moronic to say things like that, but these little compliments often get a girls attention. Saying they have pretty eyes, saying they look good in their dress. Girls want to hear that. Manipulation by lying or seduction... my style
I mostly use the "You won't have to do that, if you allow me to do this to you/for you". But also the "I won't do that, if you do this for me" works pretty well.
With girls I mostly try to get them talking about themselves and just listen, and then act when I spot a vulnerability. When I know a girl is very naive I just start bragging. When I know a girl is easily impressionable I do some stupid card trick or do a drinking contest (I can drink beer real fast).
But mostly I use the seduction, I'm a true romantic myself and I tend to say cheesy things like --- Me: 'what's your name?' ---- girl: 'Stacy' ---- me: 'Nice name'.
It's pretty moronic to say things like that, but these little compliments often get a girls attention. Saying they have pretty eyes, saying they look good in their dress. Girls want to hear that. Manipulation by lying or seduction... my style
Sep 1, 2013 5:05 PM #1077656
I am unnaturally gifted in persuasion when I speak directly to someone. It's like my eyes and voice have a hypnotic effect on anyone who isn't hard-wired to hate me. Sometimes when a person is stubborn, I try to introduce doubt, which opens their mind if I succeed. I cant tell you how much trouble I have gotten out of in real life using my speaking skills.