Quote from iarentevilFor some reason I can never take control of my dreams, whenever I try whatever action I do in the dream I do in real life and I WAKE MYSELF UP.
However it does work for a lot of people because you can change the general outline of the dream, but a lot of people refuse to as they believe dreams can hold important information, even horrific ones. As it is the subconscious, it is entirely possible that this is true.
It takes a while to develop being able to tell when you're in a dream. When you first begin realizing it, you're probably getting excited at the prospect and the excitement is what wakes you up. But if you keep at it, you'll become more used to it and begin to stick around.
This has been talked about a lot lately, but a dream journal really helps. Just something next to your bed that you can roll over right as you wake up. Y'see, I find that when I wake up, I can remember my dreams fairly well until I begin thinking about real life stuff again. But if I keep thinking about the dream it never fades. This lets you remember long enough to write the entire dream if you wanted to, but what's helping is that writing requires you to think of your whole dream multiple times, and it commits itself to memory instead of fading away. Plus the writing will be there to remind you as well.
Then things are quite a bit easier from there.