I don't know if you guys remember my post around this time of year announcing my promotion from front desk to administrative assistant at my hotel last year. Well a year later and I've been promoted to Assistant GM and I'm ecstatic. But it's been really bittersweet. I'm the youngest person who works there at the age of 21. There have been people who have worked there longer than I have and obviously people in their 30s who feel they deserve it over me. I've been getting so much shade from everyone. I don't have a single genuine supporter other than my boss. Everyone's been really rude to me, giving me the silent treatment and I'll come up and they're whispering angrily amongst themselves. People unfriending me on facebook and just being all around assholes.

It's making me feel like maybe I don't really deserve it. I think they see me as dumb, immature and young. And I wonder if they're right. If they see a side to me that my boss doesn't. And it's just making me feel shitty. I'm their manager and I feel like I have no respect from them. I've had to have discussions with some of them about their attitudes. I know I'm not perfect but I feel like I was the only person who fit the role. I want their support and I want them to respect me. Instead they're just going to be stewing, hating their jobs, hating management, doing a poor job. And I'm afraid that's going to be reflected on to our guests.

I just kinda needed to vent. I know I shouldn't care. But I do. And I have no support.

Don't worry about venting. It's totally fine.

If you're insecure about whether you deserve that position or not just because your co-workers are pulling you down, why not try to show them that you do deserve that spot through actions? As the saying goes "Actions speak louder than words". If you do your job right and be polite to everyone(Even if they aren't), you'll gain their respect as time passes.

Really now, they're just jealous as you were able to achieve something they haven't yet. Don't fret as this is a natural reaction. Instead of letting them bring you down, why not do the other way around? Try to talk to them and converse with them. You're a manager now and you need to make connections with your team. Take the initiative.

If you break down now then what they said will actually be a fact. I believe that you're a strong and persevering person. Remember that your boss decided you to be promoted to this position. If you still feel down and you feel like you can't do it for yourself, then do it for your boss who has high expectations of you.

Also, congratulations on the promotion!

Thank you for your advice and support, Zero :) I want to prove that I'm worthy but I feel like nothing's ever going to be good enough for them. I know I need to blow it off but it's still not easy.

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Thank you for your advice and support, Zero :) I want to prove that I'm worthy but I feel like nothing's ever going to be good enough for them. I know I need to blow it off but it's still not easy.

Mhmm, in that case, why don't you go ahead and greet them a "Hello!" and "Good morning!" everyday? It helps ease the tension around the air between you guys. It takes sometime and it isn't a 100% sure method to let them love/support you but it's a good start to bond with them and it's proper etiquette. Take your time and don't rush things. Proper relationships takes time to make but it's worth it.

Don't forget to smile!