Alright so recently I just lost a friend because one of the reasons is because she didn't think that playing video games, MTG and D&D is 'fun' and I never liked parties and she thought that was weird, I have grown up knowing that was my kind of fun, so for as long as i known her she would always seem to dislike this aspect of me, and yes we actually did date at one point but it was a absolute fucking mess. The worst part of it though was me being the nerdy kid I was I would have never known a girl would have liked me, and honestly she lured me into he relationship and just ruined everything. But that's aside from the point I'm in grade 11, and honestly I would consider myself the most mature person in my grade, but I seem to be the person that is considered to be one of those people who is below the rest. Everyone went to a party last night except for me and my friend and now everyone is hung over and sick, and even though I dont like parties I just feel pressure to go to them none the less, honestly I love alcohol when its just a social thing but not getting drunk then not remembering the party the next day, it doesn't make any sense to me. Anyways its just any other nerds do you guys feel the same way? Do people consider you 'lower' then the rest? I would just like to hear others thoughts, I'm not depressed or anything and I want to keep the way I am, I am very happy with my state but it doesn't make sense to me that I have a different view of 'fun' then the rest of society which makes me 'lower'. So this is a thread to talk about if your a nerd how have people treated you or talk about your interests as well!

If you lost a friend over that, I would be reluctant to classify her as a "friend" in the first place. She's an arsehole who would rather force people to be like her rather than learn to accept and understand others. That cunt should learn about respect.

And fuck what these kids think. When you graduate none of that petty shit would even matter. I was never invited to these so called "parties" that try to resemble what you see off movies. Instead I would invite 2 or 3 of my good mates and we just game. I mean hell we didn't even get drunk but it was still a good time. I mean you said it yourself, if you are more "mature" then the rest then why the fuck should you care about these kids deeming you "lower" then them?

In the end just be nice. Be "friends" with everyone in that you can strike up a nice conversation and learn about them and maybe they will return the favor and learn about you. Then maybe one day you will learn that they are into what you're into or they are willing to give your interests a try. Don't force it or anything, just keep it cool. That was one of my mistakes that I regret in highschool, was thinking that I was so above everyone that I just ignored them. No one is higher or lower then anyone, that is just their ego talking giving them a false sense of power.

By your definition, yeah I was kinda a nerd. But I had a group of friends that allowed me to stop caring about what the cool kids were doing.

Lol sounds like a "Let's talk about those bullies!" thread.
To get on topic i think i was bullied once for liking to chew on my pencil as a kid (granted chewing on pencils is weird but i still chew on them today so yeah, well i am still a kid so that doesn't really matter), i honestly just brushed him off and called him something and ignored him. Was pretty easy actually.

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In the end just be nice. Be "friends" with everyone in that you can strike up a nice conversation and learn about them and maybe they will return the favor and learn about you.

You have no idea how good this strategy is.

People look at me differently than I really am all the time. You see, you can consider your mind as the gateway to the universe around you, and you can consider your perceptions as the lens you see it through. The reason most people have said lens, is because they cannot handle having all of their surroundings flooding in all at once, to see everything for how it truly is. Their mind, their gateway so to speak, cannot handle it. It could break, and that's scary, the idea of what is fundamentally 'them' changing.

Thus the lens, the perception. This is why everyone perceives things uniquely, because different minds or gateways call for different perceptions or different lenses. Different ways of coping with the things around us, the things we perceive.

Following the metaphor, when our surroundings are taken in by us they pass through the lens, subsequently our perceptions are somewhat colored or shaped in such a way that we can handle it, to process what we perceive. Our own unique perception. In that sense you could say that the lens serves to only skew the truth in a way that is tolerable to you, your perceptions are a crutch designed by your mind in an attempt to allow what cannot be understood by your own limitations to be absorbed. Rather than changing your gateway, changing yourself, you choose to attempt to change the truth to change what you perceive instead of facing the fear or seeing the truth.

Ya Envoy everything you said is so true, but I have tried trying to like people and try to be nice to everyone but I seem to see all the bad in everyone which just makes me hate everyone more, its just everyone acts so self centered around me and I cant even get myself to become like that knowing how much of a ass I would be and I dont want to swoop to that level of being self centered so I start to hate people, and yes when I graduate it will all go away but right now high school is just a hell hole and I just I dont understand how people can deem certain people a different way. I also seem to enjoy people more when I'm not forced into being around their presence, which high school does exactly that. But I do try to see myself higher since I do everything differently, I think I need to change my mind set about that. But everything you said I absolutely agree with, i don't why I got myself into that relationship in the first place though it was such a hell hole. But I shouldn't give a fuck about anything what people think anymore lol

And Lamitrove its not I'm being bullied its I dont understand why nerds are considered lower then the rest of people. And with my friend I didn't like how she thought I was a weird person, when she was clearly the self centered bitch, I swear I dont I have insulted a person as much as her in one day

Jutsu I do face the truth knowing the repercussions of what will happen its just I try to stop other people from doing that, which well I guess would make matters worse on my part...

It's not easy trying to appreciate the good in people, much less yourself. I'm still trying today. I do stand up where I am constantly being judged and I'm always judging myself. Even if I have good laughs for 2/3 of my set, I focus on the 1/3 where I got nothing. It's not a great feeling but I know I will be stronger if I deal with it by learning how to be more positive. I've come to learn that it is a skill you have to develop over time and perhaps really early on. Your brain is just wired to respond to things in certain ways, but I do believe that you can change this setup. Highschool is a good place to start.

And to deal with your current problem, yeah they maybe arseholes now, but you never know how they might change in the future. Highschool, hormones, trying to find your place. It's a messy place. But who knows, if you are the good person maybe they'll follow your example. It's hard to be a dick to someone who is always nice. And if they still continue to be a dick to that same person they'll eventually see that reflection and it will hurt them more on the inside then it will hurt you.

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And Lamitrove its not I'm being bullied its I dont understand why nerds are considered lower then the rest of people. And with my friend I didn't like how she thought I was a weird person, when she was clearly the self centered bitch, I swear I dont I have insulted a person as much as her in one day

I guess some people just view the term "Nerd" as something that means you're not fit to be with the "crowd

I generally try to balance my weebness with a "healthy" socaial lifestyle. Like of course there are times where I'd rather stay home and watch anime than go out with my friends but that's a pretty insensitive way of thinking, when you have friends that actively seek you out and want to spend time with you neglecting them is kind of a dick move in my opinion. I've never lost a friend because of my lifestyle, so I don't exactly know how that feels but I mean if they couldn't accept you the way you were and that was the only reason why they broke it off with you then as Envoy said they weren't true friends to begin with. But on the flipside if you have friends that don't necessarily enjoy doing the same things as you, it would probably be best to leave those things out of a conversation unless they're the ones to bring it up, because they can't exactly relate to your enthusiasm and mutual relation to a topic is the essence of conversation.

Also I sincerely hope you're not taking the "I'm an individual and everyone is so self centered and bad and no one gets me" approach here, because that's as self centered as anything else

Ya envoy I think i will take that into alot of consideration I do need to be more positive, i will see if that helps. And ya I dunno I will try to be nicer to the people around me but I can't guarantee that they would follow my example, at least not where I live, but I can give it a go none the less.

And Lamitrov its just why are nerds deemed that way though? we are like everyone else.

And Drone, I have one other friend where we have the exact same interests its just this girl acted like she liked how I was then she back stabbed me and she actually hated who i was without telling me or anything, but my one friend is good enough for me and I would never neglect him. And Im going with the approach "Because I consider myself a nerd, people seem to look at me differently then the rest and I dont understand why since I'm like everyone else" And maybe my message sounded self centered I tried not to make it sound like that at least. Its just people confuse me and as a result I find a hatred for them because IMO things they do are absolutely dumb and irrational.

heh fucking nerds

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heh fucking nerds

Lol XD I knew that one was going to come eventually

fuck bitches


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fuck bitches


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Sounds like a porn game.

This runs the dangers of quickly becoming another self-pity shitfest OR a hijacked spam joke shitfest.

don't take a high school hierarchy so seriously mang

bear with it for a while and the problem will literally disappear once you finish your final year and move on to the adult world