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And a tragic lack of all that is kinky.

What is it with marriage being linked to a going away of all the cool stuff in a relationship. Like the only difference is that the couple is now legally bound and can make babies without being judged by society. Why does this happen? Do they just stop trying at all?

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What is it with marriage being linked to a going away of all the cool stuff in a relationship. Like the only difference is that the couple is now legally bound and can make babies without being judged by society. Why does this happen? Do they just stop trying at all?

Why does what happen? Marriage?

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Why does what happen? Marriage?

I don't get what you're trying to say.

I'm telling you I don't get what your question was.

You said "Why does this happen" but it isn't clearly what "this" is.

Oh, my question is why is my marriage constantly equated with the relationship deteriorating?

People often get tired of each other, I guess. Its the simplest explanation. Its more a notion of western society where marriage is equated solely with being crazy-in-love and any deterioration of the original romance is seen as something to be feared rather than accepted.

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People often get tired of each other, I guess. Its the simplest explanation. Its more a notion of western society where marriage is equated solely with being crazy-in-love and any deterioration of the original romance is seen as something to be feared rather than accepted.

Why does that not happen with friendships though? Why don't you get tired of your friends? In fact friendships get stronger with time. I do realize that one doesn't usually live with their friend or spends as much time as they do with their SO, but I feel that even if that were the case it wouldn't change the result much. I wish I was able to experiment this. Have to friends live with each other for 10+ years and see what happens.

Trust me, if you stay with your friends 24/7, it does happen.

Lets also not overlook the fact that you don't HAVE to be with your friends all the time. You can take a break whenever you want. You can avoid them for a few days, or you can spend a couple of hours with them and get away. Disagreements with friends are no big deal. You live your life, I'll live mine, but we can stay friends. That won't work in a marriage though.

With someone you're married to, it isn't the case. In many ways you are obligated to one another and it gets really grinding after a while for some people. You can't fart in peace, you're eating pretty much every dinner with them. All your friends are their friends too. Yes yes I know couples have 'their own space' and shit, but in most cases, you're basically sharing your life with someone and after a while you want some of your life to yourself.

It doubles when you have children. Now you can't live. You can't hop on to a bus and go wherever you please. Every second of your life is linked to another life directly. It ends up wearing quite heavily on people.

Makes sense. All the more reasons to pick someone as compatible as possible with yourself before taking any big steps.

Ita hard to tell. Someone can seem compatible for as long as 10-20 years and then not be anymore. It happens every single day.

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Ita hard to tell. Someone can seem compatible for as long as 10-20 years and then not be anymore. It happens every single day.

Jeeeez harsh reality.

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fixed that for you

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