This is about a problem that I have been having for a long time, and I was wondering if you would advice me on what to do. I don't mean to sound like I'm just going to dump or shame this Guy but It is getting to the point where he is threatening me to ''kill my self''.
I want you to know what kind of person he is so that maybe one of you can advice me on how to behave around him, or not be his friend at all. Make sure you stay in topic.
Now There is a friend who I Skyped a lot,(technically he was not my friend in the beginning he was more of a bully. I was the only black kid in school so he used to be very racist towards me. But the made up became friends etc) I'm not going to say any names so I'm just gonna call him Sam. So me and Sam have had a shit ton of arguments in the past 2 years and I mean a lot. What I have noticed about him is that he is a different person when your are communicating to him from the internet than in real life. In real life he is more funny, friendly, and always wants to help but on Skype he gets easy irritated at the dumbest things, he hates to be wrong so he will do anything in his power to prove you wrong even though it will make him sound like and idiot. He would rather want you to respect him than respect you. He hates it when you give up in an argument with him. e.g: ooh so that's like me saying to you that you must change your self for me... Me: uuuuugh...fuck it...ok..ok you win...I give up. sam: ooh your just saying ok because you know it will tick me off WOW what a great friend you are. What he actually means to say is ''ooh I hate it when you back down because I didn't get to prove you wrong enough''. An interesting thing about him is that he is also very predictable. But, he hates it when you point out this flaw.
actual conversation:
Sam: is it ready now
me: uuugh it cr...nothing
Sam: what is it?
me: my game crashed but your going to say typical me, always trying to stall, never wanting to play with me.
Sam:...
Sam: your just being a constructionist and assuming that I act that way but I'm not going to say anything so you don't feel bad
Now what I would probably type will make him leave the conversation because he hates, HATES being wrong so I keep quiet.
Now I could go on and on about his flaws but these are the main things you should know about him. Now today we had a interesting argument.
he wasn't able to make the internet work on his chrome book so I told him to look online, he researched and couldn't find anything so he asked me to do it. knowing what he will do if I said no I carried out the task but I was having trouble finding a tutorial that suits the situation he is in. He told me to hurry up, I said can you wait but because Sam must have his way he said no I cant really. so I continued to find a tutorial. then he said ok if you don't want to find me one don't then. I said ok, then he said that ok if you are not going to help then I guess I'm going to have to leave the call(this conversation was on Skype btw) Now another thing you should know real quick, is that he likes to threat me but doesn't like it when ANYONE threatens him. he normally says I'm going to leave the call when something does not go his way or if he feels left out in a group call. A while back me and another friend where mocking the way he always used to say that (e.g I told you not to breath at 6: 44pm - 7 : 00pm I'm going to leave the call now) I said so you're threatening me now, then he left the call.
the rest is what happen in the chat
sam:Fuck off I saw it now fuck off
me:k
sam:Fuck you, Kill yourself Faggot
me:sorry for not finding it faster
me:and sorry for pointing out you were threatening me
me:just thought that if I was honest with you and spoke what was on my mind, you would see that I respect your rules you gave(me and my other friend at one point got mad at Sam so we pointed out the idiotic shit he does and no surprise...got mad and gave me some stuff that I should stop doing so agreed to not make him loose his shit) me.
Me:I know not to make this mistake anymore and I promise it will not happen again
Sam:Fuck you not taking shit seriously( he hates it when we don't take him serious, (he admitted that it does not make him feel like he as hurt your feelings enough) I'm not your teacher I've told I don't fucking care if you talk shit or lie(He made this up, he does care but he doesn't want the image of a how do I say.. I don't really know the word but he doesn't want to seem like a person who has to be treated special in a way) because quite frankly I don't trust you and I'm sick of you r fucking constant jokes about everything OK(I'm sick of your fucking constant arguments and short temper you have and always wanting to the right but I have to be the one with problems in your vision) so stop acting like you care at the last fucking second a true friend would understand(Don't bring up true friend bullshit unless you actually act like one) and I don't care what you say to this to be honest I mean it will probably be k(just because you are predictable, doesn't mean other people are, but if you are feeling like the odd one out then start to change your attitude) or im being honest like you said well I couldn't give a two shit flying fuck(two shit flying fuck seriously ?... why the fuck did you reply to me then. Or are you trying to act like some shitbag who brushes everything of because you are the exact fucking opposite).
Sam:I wish I never wasted so much time
Sam:Fuck incoming paragraph I won't read but he'll still post(guess what guys, he doesn't give apparently ''a two shit flying fuck'' but still read my message and tried to guess what I was going to do making him trying to predict what I was going to say making him what he calls me)
me lol
me:u put me in a hard position idk wut to do, not making a joke btw
Sam:Wow making a joke what did I expect fuck off(did you read my fucking last comment dumb ass I was being serious? and No you actually expected me to waste my time and write a fucking paragraph for some fucking reason. but if you want to play psychic I want stop your dreams.)
Sam:I don't care so fuck off(yes you do)
me:ooh well (I know that if I say anything he is beyond the point of any reasoning. so there is no point of me talking)
Sam:Good now fuck off
me: will do
Sam: Never message me again, I mean it(no you do not everyone else hates you because they cant put up with your behavior)
me: ok
sam: good, untill I say you can(like I thought he didn't really mean it)
me: ok
Now I want to know what you guys think of this. should I stop being his friend. should I keep trying to change him, or should I change my self.
remember to stay in the topic.
