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Aug 23, 2013 5:15 AM #1072396
Drop him, there's absolutely nothing you can do for him. Making him into your friend wont cut it. The more you talk to him, the more he will have feelings for you. and I am not sure if he's going to do any life threatening situation. I would just recommend you not have any social connection with him.
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Aug 23, 2013 5:26 AM #1072403
All the advice on here sounds pretty consistent. I think it's clear what you need to do Camila.
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Aug 23, 2013 5:36 AM #1072409
Well, I don't know you all that well, but this troubles me. I guess I will do what I do best and keep my eyes peeled. If it helps you any, he might be autistic like I am...
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Aug 23, 2013 7:28 AM #1072454
whatever you do don't just ignore it. Leaving someone alone in a depressed state is going to make things worse as he'll have time to think about it, and by the sounds of him he'd probably tell himself about how his life sucks and shit. making him more and more depressed until he eventually snaps and trys something stupid.
so yeah basically do what everyone else told you to... >.>
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Aug 23, 2013 8:27 AM #1072473
Not entirely sure what everyone else said, it all seems consistent but jumbled.

a) This guy is nuts. Please don't make the mistake a lot of girls your age make by feeling guilt over his actions (if you do, at all). A psycho will always be a psycho. He is NOT your responsibility or your problem if he decides to hurt himself.

b) He probably isn't going to hurt himself because as Scarecrow pointed out, he seems like a giant fagtard. It would best if you totally distanced yourself from him now that you've made it clear that he totally creeps you out. I suspect that he still gets some kind of reaction out of you when he stares at you or follows you, which is why he does it.

c) Report it IF you feel he is a genuine threat to you or himself. I suspect he is just an overly possessive lovesick idiot with no social skills and nothing else to do it in life. Do NOT take the 'let-be-friends' route because that will only lead to disaster. I'm telling you right now, if you remain friends with him, then you are asking for trouble and have no one to blame but yourself if it carries on.

d) Eat a lot of garlic and make out with him one day. He'll forget you faster than Guy Pearce in Memento.
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Aug 23, 2013 9:39 AM #1072493
From what I've read, there are now two possible things to do.

School deans or completely drop contact with him.

You think these are possible at the moment Camila?
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Aug 23, 2013 9:51 AM #1072496
It has to be possible. You are in control of your own actions. If after all this, she doesn't follow very basic, practical advice, then she is bringing it all upon herself.
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Aug 23, 2013 10:44 AM #1072509
Dropping contact with him might not be the most optimal solution though if he really is crazy.
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Aug 23, 2013 10:47 AM #1072510
A guy did pretty much this exact same thing to this girl I was friends with. After ignoring him for awhile he just stopped. I feel he just does stuff to get a reaction out of you honestly. He probably just likes the attention he's getting right now.
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Aug 23, 2013 10:51 AM #1072513
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Dropping contact with him might not be the most optimal solution though if he really is crazy.


He isn't really crazy, but he is certainly disturbed. He sounds like a fucking pussy who is using this as a way to blackmail her. He needs to know there is no power he holds over her.
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Aug 23, 2013 11:21 AM #1072520
Well I've read 2 options so far. Completely ignore him or try to talk to him. And right now I feel more comfortable with the first option, I actually don't want to even see him, but there's no way I'm changing of classroom.

And for telling the authorities at uni.... I don't know guys... I saw it like that was his problem, I mean... you gotta notice when you're this fuc*ed up right? If he doesn't want any help from any psychologist why should I get him one? Not like I don't give a snap about him but I don't want his issue to become my burden.
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Aug 23, 2013 11:29 AM #1072522
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Well I've read 2 options so far. Completely ignore him or try to talk to him. And right now I feel more comfortable with the first option, I actually don't want to even see him, but there's no way I'm changing of classroom.


First you need to make sure that you don't even acknowledge his existence. He will wear out after lashing out.



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And for telling the authorities at uni.... I don't know guys... I saw it like that was his problem, I mean... you gotta notice when you're this fuc*ed up right? If he doesn't want any help from any psychologist why should I get him one? Not like I don't give a snap about him but I don't want his issue to become my burden.


His issue is not your responsibility. Its not your burden. He needs to be accountable for what he does to himself or to others.
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Aug 23, 2013 11:33 AM #1072525
The point of getting the uni on your side isn't to help him but to give you support and help while getting through this. The uni counseling will give you a place to vent and feelings you have while also getting sound advice on how to deal with someone that you might not be able to avoid. It also means that if the situation gets worse the uni will already fully understand the situation and will most likely have your back.

Also why wouldn't you be able to change class? Are your lecture/tuts not separated, or are you just against the idea of dropping the class for a semester?
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Aug 23, 2013 11:51 AM #1072530
The thing about that is that class started for a while. So I don't think you can at this time.

Camila, I think what would be best for you is what we all say you should do. Just don't even make any contact with him. Have a couple of friends around you to give you a shield from you and him.
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Aug 23, 2013 11:57 AM #1072532
He needs to see Nurse Akali. He's not normals.. but ranked. I think you should disconnect completely as staying in game will only cause more feeding. gg