You Can Learn From Sacred's Relationship Troubles

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Oct 2, 2012 8:31 PM #750282
I've noticed that relationships and liking other people have been hot topics lately. So I figured it'd be convenient that if anyone has any problems with any of those sorts of things, they can reference back to this thread for any advice that has already been said or any advice that they request.

I guess I'll just kick off with something.

A couple years ago when I was around 12 and completely naive, I met a girl online named Amanda whose personality got along great with mine. She lived in Florida. I'd talk to her on the phone all the time and we convinced each other to be in love. But it wasn't until a few years later did I realize that she wasn't who she said she was. NOW HOLD YOUR PEDOPHILE JOKES. She was a teenaged girl yes, but she was pretending to be her "more attractive" friend the whole time. I didn't mind who she was or her looks because I still thought she was cute and her personality wasn't faked or anything. But the fact that she lied to me for all those years stung pretty bad. I was 14 when I finally let her go, and for a little bit I stayed away from relationships.

Fast forward to 16. And as of right now I can admit that I was still pretty stupid. As I was browsing Omegle with my friend, we stopped on these two girls who were both cute. We stayed on a conversation for about 2 and a half hours and throughout this whole conversation me and one of the girls named Emily were flirting. Eventually we exchanged numbers. I know, Omegle. Like I said, still stupid. But see unlike the last girl I had a serious thing with (who I have no idea why I never got suspicious), I actually video chatted with this girl daily. This one lived up in Colorado. This was better than Florida because first off I'm actually considering moving up to Colorado at some point in my future, and second it's just a tad bit more geographically desirable. But eventually when I got talking with my parents they said they never met her and didn't trust the computers and yadda yadda. It just didn't work and it was at this point I realized I need to quit with this bullshit online long-distance crap. So I dropped relations with her.

Over the next year I decided to only get with a girl if I really felt like it was worth it and not become one of those stupid one-month relationships. And it wasn't until about 2 or 3 unsuccessful formations of relationships later did I meet a girl named Kathryn. From the first moment we met we really hit it off. I didn't find out until later that she had a relationship going for a year and a half with this other guy. At this point I sorta pushed dating out of my mind, so it didn't really bother me that this girl was taken. Well a couple days later her and her bad influence druggie of a boyfriend went on a "break". It was around this time that I felt morally okay with playfully flirting with her (it's just something I do with female friends). That's when I found out she actually had this massive crush on me for being a real genuine guy to her. She invited me over to her house next morning for breakfast. I came to find out she was the only one home, so as you can assume things escalated pretty quickly. She decided she was going to officially break up with her boyfriend and form something with me. But on the day of, her parent surprised her with kicking her out of the house and moving her in with her older sister in Alabama since she had a sketchy past that wasn't good until I came along. This damaged me pretty bad because I had finally found a girl I wanted to be with AND was geographically desirable! But after a month of talking since she moved, me and her have decided to wait for each other since college is literally right around the corner.

So I guess you could say it's like I haven't learned my lesson since I'm back to the whole long-distance thing that I told myself I wouldn't do. Am I dumb for thinking that it might work this time? Because the circumstances are different now.
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Oct 2, 2012 9:02 PM #750302
Just go with the flow, even if you fail you gain more experience.Plus If you love something set it free,If it comes back (or you go to her and she still likes) it belongs to you.
P.s I never was good with girls.
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Oct 2, 2012 9:50 PM #750334
I wish I had relationship problems. *forever alone*
So, don't have any experience to guide from to give any advice.
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Oct 2, 2012 10:52 PM #750372
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Oct 6, 2012 4:19 PM #752987
2-D, stickpage's comedian/douchebag.
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Oct 6, 2012 4:42 PM #753013
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2-D, stickpage's comedian/douchebag.

This explains why you have got relationship troubles.
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Oct 6, 2012 7:23 PM #753140
Am I the only one on this page that gave actually good advice...
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Oct 6, 2012 8:25 PM #753190
I wouldn't say you were stupid for being naive, but I'd say don't properly look for a relationship and quite soon someone suitable will come around and it will be all good.
Besides, at least you don't get 'friend-zoned' like me, constantly
maybe I'm just super ugly c:
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Oct 6, 2012 8:52 PM #753208
Quote from xDonnyx
Am I the only one on this page that gave actually good advice...


no, because no one did, except me.
Quote from ACBeam

maybe I'm just super ugly c:


probably. friendzoning is just a precursor to that realization
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Oct 11, 2012 10:51 PM #757050
Quote from ACBeam
Besides, at least you don't get 'friend-zoned' like me, constantly
maybe I'm just super ugly c:


Being friend zoned is the result of a lack of confidence. Not a lack of good looks. If you beam confidence and a girl still holds something against you because of your looks, then you didn't want to date her anyway.
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Oct 11, 2012 11:41 PM #757100
How do I tell if someone's gay
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Oct 12, 2012 12:11 AM #757139
Internet dating, or going to a gay bar which hasn't yet been corrupted by straight people who think it's cool? If you have a specific guy in mind then I don't really know. I can generally tell if people share my fetishes by how they act or talk, so maybe just trust your gaydar.
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Oct 12, 2012 12:24 AM #757147
I don't think you're naive at all. You don't always choose you really want to be with, and I don't mean that in a bad way. At the very least, If I were you I'd give it a serious shot. Considering the fact that, in summary, she's something that IS actually SERIOUS to you. Distance is rough, but its not an impossibility. Especially nowadays with constant connection and technology.

There is no replacement for face-to-face being with the one person you want around, but things like skype do help.
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Oct 12, 2012 1:01 AM #757195
Appreciate the support and glad to know someone shares the same thoughts. The family is giving me sort of a rough time on it, but they usually do with most things.
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Oct 12, 2012 1:02 AM #757196
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Internet dating, or going to a gay bar which hasn't yet been corrupted by straight people who think it's cool?

You do know that I'm 17 right